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27

Is My Recently Retired Partner Having An Affair?

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Late Life Divorce

Unfortunately late life divorce or ‘Grey divorce’ as it is being dubbed by researchers is on the increase. Couples split up for a wide range of reasons such as infidelity or falling out of love and this is true of older couples. However there is a different reason for the grey divorces that is unique to their age group, retirement. As divorce no longer has the social stigma that it used to have older couples feel that they can divorce if they want to but also they do not have to spend the rest of their lives with someone they hardly know or even like.cheaters

Retirement

When it is time to retire it is a life transition that can cause a lot of problems for both partners. The major bread winner will no longer have the stress and strains of a heavy workload or the responsibilities associated with a high powered job. They would have had a purpose, goal or reason for getting out of bed and now they do not. The reduction in income can give a person, who has striven to earn a living for many years, strange empty and useless feelings and can fill them with depression. This can be particularly bad when everyone around them is telling them how wonderful there life must be now and it must be the best time in their lives. It is not so great for the person who stayed at home to look after the children. Their role has now changed now the children are grown and left the nest and the carer has a new life. When the breadwinner is around all the time it can cause problems. They get in the way of the homemakers new childless routine. They are around making a mess when the coffee morning is due to take place. The breadwinner interferes with the dinner and often treads muddy boots around the immaculate kitchen causing more work.

Is An Affair Going On?

Either party of the marriage could be having an affair. The breadwinner could easily make the excuse of an evening meeting, weekend work, working away or working late, while the person already at home has all day to meet someone else. When the retirement begins both partners are now in the situation that they do not have the time or the excuses to keep an affair going at the rate that they could before the retirement. The affair could be one of the things keeping the marriage together and therefore cause ill feeling towards the partner for preventing them from seeing their lover. This situation should not be left a marriage counseling service, retirement counseling service or a private detective such as Private Investigators Dudley can offer expert matrimonial help and advice. It is possible that an affair is going on but it is also possible that the change in your circumstances is making you think this

Planning For Retirement

Pensions and planning for retirement are two things that are not thought about as much as they should be when people are young. When life is hectic and busy it can be that retirement is just not thought about. It is not a depressing thing to talk to your spouse about it should be a wonderful plan of what you want to do with the rest of your life together. Sorting out your finances for the future and having a joint plan of things to do when you have more time together stops the feelings of depression and uselessness setting in. It is a good idea to start a new hobby together and perhaps learn to play golf as this will help keep you fit and get you out and about either together or individually. Retirement is not about stopping or even slowing down it is a new part of life that can be as full as when you were working or caring for a busy family.

 

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